Just Alv and I

Some women would remark “how can you bear to leave your son behind?” when I tell them that I am going away on a holiday just with my husband.

Yes, I definitely miss my son very much every time I’m away. During our first holiday away from him in 2006 when we went to Tokyo, I panicked when I couldn’t call home for two days because an earthquake in Taiwan had destroyed most of the underwater cables. It was very hard to not let my heart be troubled and totally trust that the Lord takes care of him.

But it is also important that I spend alone-time with my husband. During a typical working day, we’re both so busy and communicate mostly through text-messaging. Once we get home, I’ll be preoccupied with spending time with Ian, and there really isn’t much time left or I’m too tired to talk to Alv after I’ve tucked Ian into bed. So our weekly Friday pak-tor nights and yearly holidays are really precious. It’s so easy to focus all our attention on our child that we neglect each other, and we don’t want that to happen.

When our children grow up and lead their own lives, it will be Alv and I alone again. We don’t want to end up having nothing to say to each other then! And one of the best ways to love your child is really to love your spouse.

So, I’m really looking forward to the two short holidays to Bali and HK that we are planning. After that, it will be to Tokyo with our little boy.